marriage researcher

Mental Wellness 

Treat Your Spouse Like a Stranger

January 1, 2019March 21, 2019 Jan Anderson, PsyD, LPPC Alex Lickerman, argue couple, B., balanced perspective, contrarian strategy, convenient distraction, counselor, crazy behavior, distraction, distressed marriage, divorce coach, familiarity-breeds-contempt-reversal, familiarity-breeds-contempt-reversal technique, favorite contrarian strategy, gratitude, happy couple, healthy distance, healthy sense of self-respect, imperfect harmony, intense feel of gratitude, interest strategy, intimacy, John Gottman, Joshua Coleman, Joshua Coleman note, just-right, just-right balance, just-right balance of healthy distance, loss of people, marriage counselor, marriage researcher, Matthew fray, Matthew fray 's lament, mystery, opposed thing, opposite impulse, partner, people guess, silent treatment, sophisticated skill, sport advice, spouse, stranger, time-out, toxic pattern, tricky territory, unhappy couple, unhappy people

For decades, marriage counselors have been advising couples to go on dates. A good idea in theory, right? Get away

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Mental Wellness 

Relationship Repair

May 1, 2018July 2, 2018 Jan Anderson, PsyD, LPPC big bummer, bummer, busy physician, cardinal rule of marital therapy, classic marital impasse, client, counsel, couple talk, evidence-based, evidence-based practice, fast-forward heartbreak, good chance, good chance of help, imposed intimacy, instinct more, John Gottman, John Gottman call, lightbulb moment, likelihood of divorce, marital therapy, marriage researcher, name of the family dog, partner, party participate, pretty good listener, relationship repair, relationship therapy, repair, seek relationship, straight talk, therapy, unique interpersonal dynamics, wife seek emotional connection, withdrawn husband

“You can’t fast-forward heartbreak and you can’t rewind love — and that’s just one big bummer.”(Chelsea Handler, comedian) It’s true

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Special Section 

Learning from Our Worst Conversations: Part 2

October 1, 2017 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC bad conversation, bitter coat, brain 's fear, charged conversation, client, client 's resistance, compliment, conciliatory message, conversation, counsel stuff, exact opposite direction, example of reframe, executive function of the brain, factual portion, favorite way, fear, fear hormone, Gottman, hardwired, healthy couple, hear client, intelligent repair mechanism, John Gottman, ledge of distrust, let 's focus, marriage researcher, nasty tone, nasty tone of voice, partner 's voice, person 's comment, powerful way, professional breakthrough, real objection, refocus, repair mechanism, resistant self, stable marriage

In Issue #109, I talked about how fear hormones can shut down the executive functions of the brain during emotionally

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Complementary Care 

Are Women Really Better at Intimate Relationships?

May 1, 2016 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC become smart, behavior, book top five, book top five regret, book top five regret of the die, Bronnie Ware, chart 1, Chase article, classic marital impasse, common regret, Cummins 's study, emotional intimacy, emotional risk, equal amount of anticipation, hospice, hospice worker, incomparable reward, incomparable reward of emotional intimacy, intimacy, intimate relationship, intimate social relationship, John Gottman, John Gottman 's description, John Gottman 's description of the classic marital impasse, large social set, leisure satisfaction, life 's big conundrum, marriage researcher, non-intimacy, old back, over-empathy, Over-Empathy look, partner 's affection, profound emotional openness, R., regret, Robert Cummins, Robin Stern, strong predictor of life satisfaction, Voice-Tribune, vulnerability being, Ware, wife seek emotional connection, withdrawn husband

It was with equal amounts of anticipation and dread that I read the R. Chase article “What Men Want” in

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Complementary Care 

How to Be in a Relationship — Without Losing Yourself

March 1, 2016 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC adult rate love, affection, betrayal of trust, chronic relationship disloyalty, couple 's positive interaction, exchange of positive emotion, gable, happiness, health risk factor, important source of life satisfaction, incomparable experience, incomparable experience of intimacy, inevitable relationship conflict, interaction range, intimacy, intimate relationship help, involve money, John Gottman, Joy, Joy matter, language of hormone, marriage researcher, partner, partner 's affection, partner 's emotional need, partner 's supportive response, people 's feel, personal stress, personal validation, physical health risk factor, process of self-disclosure, pure thoughtlessness, re-establish trust, relationship conflict, relationship disloyalty, relationship help, relationship rupture, relationship stress, repair attempt, reported cause of depression, safety of the connection, self-awareness, self-disclosure, Shelly gable, social skill, stress, successful repair attempt, supportive response, USC Santa Barbara, validation, vicissitude of life

Having love in our lives is important to most of us. Numerous studies show that intimate relationships are the single

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Complementary Care 

Practicing Gratitude Enhances Well-Being

December 1, 2015January 20, 2017 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC cardiovascular aftereffect, cardiovascular aftereffect of negative emotion, CEO of Yum, daily-gratitude, daily-gratitude group, David Novak, emotion, expert John Gottman, favorite gratitude study, feel of gratitude, grateful felt, gratitude, gratitude study, hard result, head of the world 's large restaurant company, impression of the daily-gratitude group, John Gottman, Louisville study show, marriage researcher, myth, negative emotion, negative physical symptom, Novaks, Novaks unique leadership style, ordinary life event, people leave job, physical health, positive-thinking/optimism, practice gratitude, psycho-emotional, psycho-emotional benefit, regular practice of gratitude, research author, research conclusion, Robert Emmons, soft stuff, Tom Monahan, un-doing, unrelated perception, week exercise

LOUISVILLE Studies show that the regular practice of gratitude can not only increase our well-being and happiness, but also improve

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Complementary Care 

What Do Women Want?

April 1, 2014 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC #1 issue, classic marital impasse, common dilemma, empower process, femininity, hard issue, individual woman 's situation, internalized cultural rule, intimate relationship, John Gottman, marriage researcher, normal human need, old cultural rule, partner 's reaction, personal relationship, power side, Sidra stone, strength, vexatious variation, wife seek emotional connection, withdrawn husband, woman 's situation

In your work with women, what is the #1 issue you encounter? Whether I’m working with a young woman in

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Complementary Care 

Love Sick

February 1, 2014 Jan Anderson amount of positivity, anger, area of relationship, associated health issue, complain partner, contented couple, deep marital misery, diffuse physiological arousal, effect of evidence-based practice, effective natural killer cell, evidence-based, evidence-based method, experience counsel individual, express anger, far low rate, Gottman, gratify aspect, great proliferation of white blood cell, ground-breaking book, healthy activity, image001 Dr., John Gottman, John Gottman 's research, licensed professional clinical counselor, Lois Verbrugge, magic ratio, marriage people experience, marriage researcher, patient 's chance, patient 's romantic relationship, patient suffer relationship stress, perceived competency, practice of relationship counsel, professional attention, quality of a patient 's romantic relationship, relationship counsel professional, relationship practice, relationship stress, stable marriage, toll relationship stress, unhappy marriage, unhappy marriage people experience

Does the quality of a patient’s romantic relationship affect the quality of his or her health? Thanks to the work

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