Author: Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC

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How to Ask for Help If You’re a Perfectionist

February 1, 2021February 17, 2021 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC ability of therapy, actionable change, airline captain, B., big predictor, book coach, book therapist, book-writing, book-writing phobia, bout of profound confusion, Brett Steenbarger, brief psychotherapy, client, client-counselor, client-counselor relationship, confrontational, counsel, divorce, Dr. John Gottman, end of discussion, entrepreneurial mode, environment of hope, ever-expanding morass, exhilarate high, exhilarate high of productivity, expert Dr. John Gottman, exploration of new pattern, face-saving way, favorite face-saving way, focused change effort, good therapist, hand-on-the-doorknob, hand-on-the-doorknob comment, increased empathy, increased expertise, intensive one-on-one therapy, new pattern, old pattern of thought, one-and-done marriage therapy session, one-on-one therapy, ongoing reinforcement, perfectionist, perfectionist tendency, perfectionistic professional, period of absolute clarity, personal counsel experience, personal turn point, plenty personal, powerful emotional experience, pre-marital, pre-marital counsel, professional development, profound confusion, rehearsal of the new pattern, relationship go, science of brief psychotherapy, starter marriage, strength of the client-counselor relationship, stuckness, therapeutic alliance, therapist, therapist 's help, therapy, tortured-reasoning, tricky part, troublesome period, true perfectionist, unhappy couple, use of a supportive relationship, well-meaning adage

I’m writing a book. There, I’ve said it. So almost five years into the process, I guess it’s actually going

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Mental Wellness 

Tired of Being Triggered? How to Keep from Losing It with People You Love.

December 1, 2020February 17, 2021 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC acceptance, alien value system, app, awareness, big chunk of time, client, co-worker, conflict avoidant, conversational ambush, current mental programme, Dr. Brewer, Dr. Brewer 's app, Dr. Brewer 's research, Dr. Judson Brewer, Dr. Judson Brewer 's family, Dr. Judson Brewer 's family of app, embodied awareness, emotion, emotion manifest, emotional family member, favorite tool, feel subversive, groundbreaking research, handy way, Kristin Neff, Kristin Neff 's impressive body, Kristin Neff 's impressive body of research, MD-UPDATE, new self-esteem, popular memes, powerful practice, rationality, relationship tension, self-compassion, self-esteem, self-judgment, simple premise, standard mindfulness phrase, stun lack, stun lack of awareness, therapist, therapy part, type of focus, up-close-and-personal, up-close-and-personal version, UT-Austin, UT-Austin professor, yoda-type, yoda-type character

Is there anyone who hasn’t been triggered by someone about something this year? Is there anyone who hasn’t felt a

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Headlines 

The 14th Annual UofL Depression Center Conference Goes Virtual

December 1, 2020February 17, 2021 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC anxiety disorder program, Beck, Beck image003, Beck image003 photo, Boadie Dunlop, boost psychotherapy modality 's effectiveness, breakthrough therapy, CBT, clinical practice, COVID-19, current drug therapy, current psychedelic craze, depression, depression center conference, director of the mood, disorder, Dunlop, Dunlop 's presentation, Dunlop image002, Dunlop image002 photo, endure complete relief, essential component of treatment, fast lane of psychiatric drug treatment, FDA, image001 photo, importance of the set, intolerable side effect, market approval, MDMA, MDMA-assisted, MDMA-assisted therapy, medication-assisted, medication-assisted psychotherapy model, medication-assisted psychotherapy model of care, party drug ecstasy, PhD, photo, presentation, professor, psilocybin, psychedelic, psychedelic craze, psychedelic research, psychedelic trip, psychiatric disorder, psychiatric drug treatment, psychiatry, psychotherapy, psychotherapy modality 's effectiveness, rampant abuse, resilience, stand-alone treatment, therapy, treat depression, treatment-resistant, UofL, UofL depression center, UofL depression center conference, virtual event, weak experimental design, weak experimental design of psychedelic research

LOUISVILLE After weak experimental designs of psychedelics research in the 1950s, rampant abuse in the 1960s, and a global ban

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Mental Wellness 

The Argument Antidote

October 1, 2020December 1, 2020 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC actual behavior, argument antidote, behavior, body language, champion of relationship, chance, counterintuitive notion, Dr. John Gottman, endless struggle, gather dust, good chance, Gottman, Gottman 's research, Hal, insufficient condition, intimate personal relationship, John Gottman, love lab, love part, major marital conflict, majority of marital conflict, marital conflict, marriage therapy, master of relationship, mental closet, mundane annoyance, northern California home, partner, partner 's commitment, partner 's willingness, perpetual category, raw footage data means, real couple, real live couple, relationship 's good, relationship process, relationship superpower, repellent, resentment, resentment repellent, science of relationship, sense of the delicate balance, Sidra, Sidra 's work, Sidra stone, sink feel, skill, solution-focused, solution-focused communication skill, solution-focused process, solution-focused skill, therapist, tone of voice, unadorned translation, week-long workshop, wonder relationship

“There’s absolutely no hope for this relationship,” I thought to myself, with a sinking feeling. It was my first time

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Mental Wellness 

Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide

August 1, 2020October 19, 2020 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC area of the brain, big risk factor, brain, client, client 's shoe, client stop, client stop think suicidal thought, clinician, constricted think, counselor-client, counselor-client relationship, counterintuitive part, crisis counselor, crucial connection, drown person, good clinical train, good predictor of a suicide attempt, good predictor of suicide, helpful person, hotline, inner critic, internal negotiation, judgment, Kentucky right, life jacket, live buffer, local crisis counselor, local suicide hotline, major national public health issue, Marsha Linehan, mental constriction, Muzak queue, near-critical, near-critical car accident, normal human suffer, option, person contemplate suicide, powerful protective factor, problem-solving impairment, psychologist call, psychology nerd, rational thought, resourceful lady, safety plan, severe mental strain, Sidra stone, standard record, start function, suicide, suicide assessment, suicide attempt, suicide hotline, surreal minute, surreal minute of easy listen music, texted help

Thinking about suicide is not a very good predictor of a suicide attempt. Thinking about suicide isn’t even one of

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Mental Wellness 

Both/And Thinking Makes You Smarter and More Emotionally Intelligent

March 1, 2020June 1, 2020 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC #MeToo, air-tight container type, air-tight container type of brain, big container, cognitive disarray, container, cool part, discomfort of hold opposite, door number three, emotional receptivity, expanded think, Hal, hellish state, jungian-based, jungian-based skill, opposite, organizational meltdown, outpour of unity, over-accentuate, overt sign of hatred, personal recipient, radical acceptance, receptivity, sense of strength, Sidra, Sidra stone, tension of the opposite, three thousand, three thousand mile drive, white think mind, zen koan

Right after 9/11, my mentors, Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone wrote about their decision to make the three thousand mile

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Mental Wellness 

It Starts with a Secret

February 1, 2020April 2, 2020 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC anatomy of a breakup, chance, Diane Vaughn, end of the relationship seesaw, essential start point, essential start point of a felt connection, experiential learn, felt, felt connection, good chance, good table manner, halfway home, hard thing, let 's start, let 's talk, life-altering decision, necessary pain, new idea, No-Win, No-Win strategy, one hundred % guarantee, partner, partner 's affection, person share, quiet recess, relationship go, relationship seesaw, sane possible position, semi-empty, semi-empty house, skill, strategy, strategy no-win, strategy spiral, Sure-Fire, Sure-Fire way, take birth control pill, total transparency, turn away moment, ultimate victim position, undisclosed decision, unnecessary strife, value of good table manner, victim position, volatile guy, vulnerable thing, weird part

It starts with a secret— a decision you make in the quiet recesses of your own mind. This decision will

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Mental Wellness 

Are There Good Reasons for Bad Feelings?

November 1, 2019February 21, 2020 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC American 15-44, American 15-44 year, anxiety, bad feel, brain, brain influence mood, brain sound, chemical imbalance, committed love relationship, costly thing, crucial foundation, Darwinian, depression, depression center, depression research, disorder, evolutionary medicine, evolutionary psychiatry, founder of evolutionary medicine, frontier of evolutionary psychiatry, funny noise, good reason, goodness, health service administration, image001 photo, image002 photo, intolerable side effect, Jesse Wright, lead cause of disability, meaningful happy life, mental health service administration, mental health treatment, mindless selection, mood, mood disorder, mood mechanism, moodostat, naïve Darwinian, Nesse, ordinary Darwinian, ordinary psychiatrist, origin of mood, photo, pretty good way, psychiatry, Randolph Nesse, selfish competition, stop treat symptom, stop view symptom, symptom, united state 's investment, UofL, UofL depression center conference, UOFL Randolph Nesse, usual stuff

“Why does depression exist at all?” “Why are mental disorders so confusing?” I wasn’t expecting these types of questions from

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Mental Wellness 

The Divorce Dilemma

October 1, 2019December 9, 2019 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC challenge decision, copy of crazy time, couple experience marital problem, death of the spouse, dimension of life happiness, divorce, divorce dilemma, divorce workshop, exquisite vulnerability, family challenge, good divorce, happiness, kid, level of stuckness, life event, life happiness, marital strife, new therapist, OR go, parent stay, partner, perfectly-calibrated, perfectly-calibrated parent, place of exquisite vulnerability, recognized divorce workshop, spouse, stressful life event, therapist, too-lofty, too-lofty observation, unhappiness, unhappy marriage

While I was going through my messy divorce, I was stunned to run across a book called The Good Divorce.

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Mental Wellness 

The Problem with Intimacy

September 1, 2019October 28, 2019 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC alcohol consumption, being benefit, closeness, cognitive distortion, cultural tendency, dangerous little bugger, degree of distance, distortion, distressed mother, emotional risk, empower way, feel safe, golf, good chance of intimacy, good character trait, handy way, herd, herd animal, high risk, human being benefit, human condition, intimacy, lesson, like herd animal, lone wolf, lone wolf mentality, lonely mother, meaningful connection, mentality, new thought structure, obesity, painful awareness, reality, reality of the human condition, relationship quicksand, skill, skill memory, tactics, think error, timeworn tactics, universal law, universal law of relationship, vulnerability, weak-minded individual, wolf, wolf mentality

“We’re not close.” That was the elegantly simple way a distressed mother tearfully described her relationships with her grown children.

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