Author: Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC

FRONT Mental Wellness 

The Problem with Intimacy

September 1, 2019September 4, 2019 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC alcohol consumption, being benefit, closeness, cognitive distortion, cultural tendency, dangerous little bugger, degree of distance, distortion, distressed mother, emotional risk, empower way, feel safe, golf, good chance of intimacy, good character trait, handy way, herd, herd animal, high risk, human being benefit, human condition, intimacy, lesson, like herd animal, lone wolf, lone wolf mentality, lonely mother, meaningful connection, mentality, new thought structure, obesity, painful awareness, reality, reality of the human condition, relationship quicksand, skill, skill memory, tactics, think error, timeworn tactics, universal law, universal law of relationship, vulnerability, weak-minded individual, wolf, wolf mentality

“We’re not close.” That was the elegantly simple way a distressed mother tearfully described her relationships with her grown children.

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Mental Wellness 

Estranged from Your Adult Child: The Last Thing You Ever Expected

June 1, 2019September 4, 2019 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC adult child, alienation of divorced parent, child blame, child-centered family, childless member, childless member of society remark, college-aged son, daughter-in-law, dependent parent, Elizabeth Vagnoni, endless heartache, estrangement, estrangement stem, family-oriented time, family-oriented time of year approach, feel of profound vulnerability, guilt, happy life, heartache, Indian court system, Joshua Coleman, kid, long-term conflict, loyalty conflict, mental illness, mother 's befuddlement, Mr. Samuel, parent advice, parent-centered, Parent-Child, Parent-Child estrangement, primal bond, professional help, profound vulnerability, quick-fix solution, Raphael Samuel, Raphael Samuel of Mumbai, refuse contact, relationship repair, remorse, San Francisco psychologist, serious life situation, six-session, six-session internet seminar, society remark, son-, son-in-law, successful adulthood, temperamental mismatch, time of heartache, twenty-seven-year-old, unanticipated place, Vagnoni, well-meaning parent, year approach

As holidays, birthdays and other family-oriented times of year approach, it’s a time of heartache for parents whose adult children

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Events News & Events 

KPMA Explores Ways to Improve Access to Mental Health Care Services in Kentucky

May 1, 2019May 13, 2019 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC behavioral health care manager, care model, care physician, CoCM, collaborative Care model, consult psychiatrist, experienced physician presenter, health care manager, increase provider satisfaction, Kentucky, Kentucky psychiatric medical association, KPMA, KPMA explore way, Lori Raney, Mary Helen Davis, Nathan Copeland, option worth, physician, physician presenter, presenter, primary care physician, psychiatrist, shortage of psychiatrist

LEXINGTON It’s challenging. The need for mental health and substance abuse treatment in Kentucky continues to rise, and there’s already

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Mental Wellness 

How to Make Peace with Your Parents — And Just About Anybody Else

May 1, 2019June 21, 2019 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC accusatory suffer, bad feel, Bibliotherapy, case of abuse, character draw, emotional baggage, emotional recovery, emotional wound, endless loop of ruminate, enjoy movie, evidence-based recovery method, experience part fit, forgiveness, forgiveness process, good life, hoped-for relationship, ill-tempered meanness, insufficient condition, loss of the hoped-for relationship, mother 's decades-long, mother 's hostility, near-effortless, near-effortless opportunity, painful reality, parent 's hurtful behavior, recovery, recovery look, resilience, set consequence, sheer desperation, sincere-but-delusional, sincere-but-delusional pretend, surprise benefit, therapy, victim mentality, write therapy, Wynona Judd

“It’s always something or your mother,” as Wynona Judd is fond of saying. I guess she should know. She and

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Special Section 

Learning from Our Worst Conversations: Part 2

October 1, 2017 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC bad conversation, bitter coat, brain 's fear, charged conversation, client, client 's resistance, compliment, conciliatory message, conversation, counsel stuff, exact opposite direction, example of reframe, executive function of the brain, factual portion, favorite way, fear, fear hormone, Gottman, hardwired, healthy couple, hear client, intelligent repair mechanism, John Gottman, ledge of distrust, let 's focus, marriage researcher, nasty tone, nasty tone of voice, partner 's voice, person 's comment, powerful way, professional breakthrough, real objection, refocus, repair mechanism, resistant self, stable marriage

In Issue #109, I talked about how fear hormones can shut down the executive functions of the brain during emotionally

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Mental Wellness 

Learning from Our Worst Conversations

August 1, 2017 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC assumption, bad conversation, brain, conversation, conversational distance, distrust, emotional intelligence, establish trust, executive function, executive function of the brain, executive function of the pre-frontal cortex, extra nanosecond, fear, fear hormone, hard-wired question, HearthMath, HearthMath institute, intelligence, interaction pattern, Judith Glaser, neurological root, person 's distrust, pre-frontal, pre-frontal cortex, primitive brain, regulation of emotion, strategic social skill, survivalist option

Some conversations just don’t go very well. You know the ones — you were completely blindsided by someone or totally

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Mental Wellness 

How to Stop Procrastinating, Get Stuff Done, and Get on with Life

July 1, 2017December 20, 2017 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC 25, avoidance, bore chore, chronic procrastinator, Cirillo 's full-blown version, client, difficult conversation, E.Q., easy-to-use tool, effective behavior, emotion, emotion-focused, emotion-regulation, emotion-regulation skill, emotional awareness, emotional cope part, even shame, expert Francesco Cirillo, fig, finish line, Francesco Cirillo, future moment, high degree of emotional awareness, increment, let 's start, low E.Q., moment, mood regulation, non-urgent task, Pomodoro, Pomodoro technique, Pomodoros, poor time management, powerful emotion-focused, procrastinate, procrastination, procrastination-buster, procrastinator, self-forgiveness, self-regulate, self-regulation, self-regulation strategy, self-regulatory, self-regulatory task, short-term mood regulation, small self-regulatory task, stay power willpower, success build, task, timer, tomato-shaped, tomato-shaped timer, track procrastination, use Pomodoros, willpower, willpower muscle

I could tell the moment I said it that I’d struck a chord. “Procrastination has almost nothing to do with

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Mental Wellness 

Shut Up and Meditate

April 1, 2017April 24, 2017 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC bad possible place, c-suite, celebrity type, crazy-busy, crazy-busy life, harangue, hard activity, Healthcare executive, high-performing professional, initial experience of meditation, inner critic, inner pusher, Lily Tomlin 's muse, Louisville heart, meditation, meditation instructor, meditation means, meditation practice, mind waver, mindfulness, moment, new fear, old hurt, plethora of c-suite, prescription eyeglass, present moment, pusher, stay calm, type of mindfulness practice, unexpected comment, utter waste, utter waste of time

It was an unexpected comment from an unlikely source. I was sitting there minding my own business at the Louisville

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Mental Wellness 

The Art of Giving Selfishly

February 1, 2017April 25, 2017 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC absolute bad thing, Adam Grant, bad performer, business competitiveness, care city, career orientation, compassionate Louisville campaign, concerned city leader, dozen of industry, Dr. Alex Gerrasimides, Dr. Alex Gerrasimides mention, employee retention, engineer 's productivity, favor, five, five minute favor, generous sale people, giver, Grant, Grant call, Greg Fischer, grief, guy finish, help profession, huge body of evidence, Louisville, Louisville campaign, low operate expense, matcher, matcher mentality, matcher-like behavior, medical student 's grade, mentality, mind of an over-giver, nice guy finish, odious people, over-giver, over-giver side, over-giver side of the scale, over-giving, Pennsylvania Wharton, Pennsylvania Wharton school, people 's job, performance metric, Professor Grant, provide mentoring, sense of personal mission, small amount of the taker, subclinical dose, successful end of the scale, taker, top tier of American city, university of Pennsylvania Wharton school, young tenured professor

What cranks your career? A sense of personal mission to help people heal and to be of service is what

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Health Topics Mental Wellness 

Conversational Intelligence

January 1, 2017January 20, 2017 Jan Anderson, PSYD, LPCC active listen technique, chance, client, communication skill, conversational intelligence, dry clean, effective interaction start, even humiliation, feel vulnerable thing, good emotional connection, good interpersonal communication skill, intellectual exercise, interaction start, interpersonal communication skill, listener, nice job, palpable connection, possible embarrassment, productive communication, promotability, rule break, solid communication technique, straight talker, sure ticket, use good, vulnerability

I admit it. I’ve never been very good at following the rules… especially when the rules don’t make sense or

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